You seem to contradict yourself here. The main thrust of your article seems to be that anybody who says polyamory doesn't work for them after trying it, is wrong, because polyamory ALWAYS works for everybody, even if people have bad experiences with it.

But then you say "perhaps you need to admit you no longer want that particular sweet in your bag".

But you said that one of the sweets was polyamory. Marshmallows to be specific.

So why isn't it ok to decide you don't like marshmallows anymore? People go off certain things all the time. Some people may decide it's too exhausting to try and manage the expectations and competing needs of more than one person and decide to become monogamous for that reason, for example.

Not everyone choosing not to be polyamorous is an attack on you or your way of life, or needs to be defended against, you know.

I used to be polyamorous, and now I'm monogamous, not because I'm against polyamory, but because it works better for me to be monogamous right now. Maybe that will change, maybe it won't. But I like being able to have the energy to focus on my partner in great depth and detail, to know him extremely well. I like having the energy to focus on my best platonic friend in the same way. I like having a handful of other close friends who I talk with most days. I like having the energy to do that, and to also focus on my brothers. I like having the time left over to focus on myself and give myself ample time alone as well.

I do not have the energy left over after all that for a new relationship, because it would take time, energy and attention away from all my other relationships. And I don't WANT to neglect those other relationships (including platonic ones).

It's the same reason why I don't want to have a kid. I don't have the emotional energy for a kid right now and I don't want the way it would take away from my romantic and platonic relationships.

This is what's right for me. At this point in my life. Like I say, maybe things will change. But if they don't, it's not wrong. Polyamory isn't right for everyone and that's ok.