You know what? I don't need a man for financial reasons. But I "need" my partner the way I "need" my best friends. For emotional support. For love. My partner is my best friend, my lover, my champion, my greatest supporter. Because of him, I feel free to be my truest self. I feel confident and blossom into my most empowered and joyous self.

I am the breadwinner in my relationship. I make SIGNIFICANTLY more (10x more) than my partner ever earned in his best years.

My partner is the supporter. We make plans together. We succeed together. He follows his dreams of being a writer and one day will run an animal sanctuary with me. He is my safe place. He is where I can be vulnerable without fear. I admire his intelligence, I adore his humour and wit, I find him very attractive, and I love him for his passionate ideals. We are soulmates.

But I am the leader of the household.

And that works VERY well for us.

Not all relationships have to look the same. I understand that your dream partnership involves YOU being the leader and because you're heterosexual it means you want a woman who will be your cheerleader and safe place. That's not bad that you want that for yourself. The problem arises when you make blatant statements on behalf of "all men" about "women in general". Because not all men want to be like you. And not all partnerships have to involve one person being "the leader" and the other one being "the follower". A lot of relationships people take turns. Some, like mine, have the woman in the leadership position. And that's not even getting into queer relationships.