You know, this may be true for you but it’s not, nor should it have to be, the case for everyone. For many people it’s something that they are interested in as a kink but not as a lifestyle. Certainly I am extremely uncomfortable with anyone assuming, or wanting, me to be submissive outside “the bedroom” (which is a metaphor for sex that can happen outside the actual room where we sleep). The fact you want people who aren’t comfortable being submissive in a nonsexual way, to either get out of BDSM or to start your type of TPE, is disturbing and indicates maybe you’re not as much of an ethical “Master” as you think you are.

I feel safe giving up control (sometimes) in a sexual way, with my lover. However I would NEVER tolerate someone telling me I need to be submissive anywhere else. Because that’s a red flag to me of abuse. If someone wanted to do it outside of sex and volunteered that’s one thing, but people like you saying they “should” do it else you’re gonna gatekeep them from BDSM? Gross.