Well said! I enjoy rough sex to a degree but it's always within the parameters of what we have discussed beforehand that I want. Certain things I enjoy, other things I do not. And even then, some days you're just not in the mood for that kind of sex. If the sex you have leaves you feeling bad about yourself, hurt, upset - then either there was a MAJOR miscommunication and it should never happen again, or (especially if it happens again) it's abuse.