This is well said.

There is a compromise to be made between “what you want for yourself" and “what your partner wants" and while a relationship should encourage freedom, the emotional security of all parties still matters, and so both you and Flo were valid in having the feelings you did about the sex party, and each of you would have been valid to make an individual choice based on it, but I’m glad you chose the option that allowed for you both to be happy and feel loved. And you ended up going to a different sex party together. ❤️