This is such a great point. Fortunately for my partner, I love giving oral sex and it turns me on to fantasise about it too. And one of the things that REALLY turns on my husband is when I talk about a blowjob being romantic. Because the idea of a blowjob is so often tied to humiliation/degradation in porn that he felt guilt about finding it hot for a long time. Whereas when I talk about deepthroat as being as romantic as French kissing (because I mean, why can't it be? Of course it can be, it's all about the intention) it's super hot and loving and makes him very happy.