This happened to me, with my beloved. It’s a very awkward conversation. Because people always feel like saying “hey can we do something differently” is saying “how you did it before sucked”. Or if you say “hey I loved having all the sex we had, but can we try a few things to see if I can come as well?” it’s taken as a criticism like the partner wasn’t trying to please you already. But yeah it’s a conversation that NEEDS to happen because otherwise it can be a bedroom killer. Fortunately my love and I got through the awkwardness to the joyful lovemaking again. Now we understand that while I might not come every time, you can be damn sure I’m still enjoying myself — A LOT — and that’s what I have sex for. If it was just about orgasm I could give one to myself in 45 seconds with my hand. Sex is about the full bodied experience, the sensuality, the love and connection to my lover etc. Being free to explore how I feel in the moment without any pressure for what a climax “should” look like. Or if sometimes it doesn’t happen but that’s OK because you had an absolutely marvellous time in the process.