THIS A HUNDRED TIMES!!!!

Wow. Well said. I hope you don't mind I am writing so many comments. But this is one of my favourite articles you've ever written and I am a fan in general. And it relates so much to my personal experience as a bisexual woman.

Am I personally affected by structural homophobia right now by people who see me in a relationship with a male-passing nonbinary person? Not really. But do I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of homophobia? ABSOLUTELY. More so than some of my friends who are gay who have loving families who accept them!

And yes I absolutely feel that the homophobia I grew up with affected my ability to bond with women in a way that would make it easy for me to have sex with them or even acknowledge my feelings of attraction for them for what they were.

Because of the intense sex negativity I was surrounded by I feel physically distant from most people. Even the people I love. I want to feel comfortable touching and cuddling even in a platonic way. Touch is actually one of my top love languages. I just - can't seem to - unless they initiate first. I feel inhibited. (Except for one time when I was on MDMA at a rave and then I was able to touch and enjoy being touched by another woman, a stranger).