THIS!!!!

I was a "late virgin" who had my first partnered sex experience at 23, with someone I had a strong emotional connection with (who is still my partner). The reason I waited is because I am demisexual and even though I have a VERY high libido, I don't want to have sex with OTHERS unless I am emotionally connected (deep friendship/love).

So what did I do before I "lost" my virginity? I became a champion masturbator for over a decade, and I would estimate that before I ever had partner sex I had given myself more orgasms than I have had days in my life so far. I was sexually satisfied with masturbation, I got more orgasms through masturbation than I would have if I had just had partner sex I didn't truly want. I know all the statistics about hookups and casual sex, for over 80% of women they don't result in orgasm. So why would I do something I was statistically unlikely to enjoy?

For me, partnered sex is first and foremost about intimacy and expressing the love language of touch in ALL the ways with someone I love. So that's what I use partnered sex for, and it's incredible, and I had the perfect first partner sex experience on MY terms, and I was glad I waited so the conditions were right FOR ME.

But rest assured I WAS sexually fulfilled before then, and I am sexually fulfilled now in a long distance relationship as well, because I am so good at practicing self love.