Things I find sexy in my male partner:

1. Willingness to be emotionally vulnerable. This doesn't have to mean crying, although sharing those kind of emotions is a sign of trust which makes me feel emotionally closer and since I'm demisexual, will affect my desire. But it also means being willing to show how much desire he feels for me, how much pleasure he's having in bed (moaning etc).

2. Being unafraid to be unique. My partner is an eccentric man, who likes wearing capes, declaiming dramatically, hamming it up, and doing Jim Carrey impressions. I am an eccentric woman, so I really love that he isn't afraid to show his true self to me. This leads to some very creative sexual fantasies and roleplays that we both enjoy.

3. Being moderately fit. Actually my partner is quite fit, but that's not required for me to find him sexy. But healthy - I agree. It shows he is in tune with his body.

4. Making an effort to be sexy for me. Which I reciprocate. We both try to look attractive to each other. And praise each other a lot (in a genuine way).

5. His voice. I am very turned on by auditory stimuli. My partner's voice gives me ASMR. And when he vocalises his pleasure (the way he breathes, groans, moans, gasps etc) it's SO hot.

6. Being passionate about things. My partner is extremely passionate about trying to make the world a better place. This feeds into a zest for life and a fire in the eyes which affects all aspects of his life and means he's passionate in the bedroom.

7. His hands. Idk why. They're just so beautiful and sexy - long and graceful fingers and very expressive. He knows how to use them too. ;)

8. Making me feel safe to share my desires with him. Feeling unafraid to let loose removes my inhibitions and lets me fully enjoy sex and initiate sex more.