That’s fair. But I thought you wrote in one of your Medium articles that you and your husband were invited to be on Jada Pinkett-Smith’s talk show because of your article about your husband becoming a conspiracy theorist? How did that conversation go down if he didn’t know you blog about him?
And given all the articles you write about how much money you make on Medium, how does he not know where the money comes from? He must know, surely?
I just feel like if he came across the article entitled “I want to leave my husband” that would have to feel AWFUL for him. Especially if he then went through all the comments on your articles that bash him, telling you to leave him, telling you he “gives off a million red flags” and that he’s “about to have an affair” etc.
I believe that working through a troubled relationship is important, and being honest, but I just find it hard to believe that he doesn’t know you make money off these stories that paint him in a bad light. And I think that you do sensationalise the bad parts of your relationship in order to get more claps and shares, a form of “clickbait” tied to how much money you want to make off your blog.
You should be able to speak your truth, but should the truth be told directly to your husband instead of to an audience of 4500 followers? Especially since some of the things you write about, you apparently haven’t told him directly yet? Shouldn’t these conversations and these feelings be shared with him first?
Like I can’t stop thinking about how betrayed and blindsided I would be if I found out my partner was writing about how they wanted to leave me and how they felt trapped in their marriage, no longer desired me, and sharing this with thousands of people, and making money off it, and portraying me as this bad person, let alone if they hadn’t told me first they felt this way?
Like of course you’re free to write about whatever you want, and make money off whatever you want, and indeed I write about people in my life sometimes, including mentioning how my mother abused me, and how my partner committed manslaughter a few years ago while having a psychotic episode — but I use a pseudonym, I share every article I write with my partner, and regarding my mother, there’s no way she would be able to find out what my blog is.
And everything I write about, I would have talked to the people I’ve written about first, and said everything to their face anyway.
