That kind of response is one reason why I no longer identify as a feminist lol. It’s sexist to demand that all women have to act a certain way or need to be seen as sexy. But if you WANT to be sexy to your partner, and you love them, and they love you, then why not just enjoy that? Especially if it feels right for you?

It’s actually sexist to denigrate femininity. You shouldn’t have to feel as though unless you’re more like a man you’re disempowered.

In a loving relationship, both people should care about looking good for each other. I love being feminine. I only wear dresses actually. That’s not because I feel I have to, it’s because I enjoy looking like a nature goddess or queen. And I feel elegant and empowered. No one looks down on me for it, in fact I am respected because people can tell that I am unapologetically ME.