Thank you for this! I'm sick of all the articles that are like "if you are a woman who has sex with a man and you didn't come it's HIS FAULT DEFINITELY and he's SELFISH and you are ENTITLED to an orgasm from him and if you don't then that's contributing to patriarchy!!!!"

NO ONE is "owed" an orgasm from anyone else. But you SHOULD absolutely want to share pleasure with your partner and listen to what they want to communicate regarding what feels good, and communicate the same to them. But sex is definitely about the journey not the destination. So long as you're enjoying the journey, and you're in it together, it shouldn't matter whether your partner makes you come, you make yourself come, or no one comes. So long as you have a good time.