Thank you for the shout out and the quote!

When I call my partner my "soulmate" it doesn't mean I think he was the only one that was destined for me by the universe, I believe there are other potential soulmates out there. And in non-duality, we are all one. But as our individual selves, there can be a particular person (or people) that come to open up your understanding of the deeper relationship of reality. And the more you learn to love them, the more you see the entire universe in them, and through them you see the entire universe.

Like a small piece of a fractal pattern contains infinity, and yet is also part of another infinity. My soulmate is my companion, lover, best friend, in this lifetime. I choose to devote time and energy to our relationship because it delights me, because he is wondrous, and strange, and funny and deeply interesting.

My love for him is like my love for Life itself, my love for That Which is Other than Me, which at the same time is That Which is Also One With Me.

We have been polyamorous before and maybe will be again. I think the only thing that needs to be considered regarding emotional intimacy and whether it can cross a line into betrayal is - do you feel like you need to hide how much you're sharing with your friend? If so, why?

I tell my partner about my friends, including my male friends, including ones I find attractive. I've said nothing to them that I wouldn't also be comfortable sharing with my soulmate too. It seems like you are on the same wavelength with your husband regarding your intimate friendships with your two male friends too. So I think it's fine.

I think emotional cheating is more likely to happen when you start telling your male friend things that you feel you can't tell your partner.