Thank you!!!

Honestly I am estranged from my mother, not because I want to, but because she estranged ME for being bisexual and having normal sexual desire as a young woman. And then after years of silent treatment and behaving as though I don't exist, and even more years of emotional abuse, she starts messaging me again on Facebook as if nothing has happened. And then gets annoyed when I set boundaries and say "If you want to reconcile we need to talk honestly about the impact of your past behaviour to me". My mum isn't open to this, so we are still estranged.

My stepmother also decided to estrange from me and my brothers giving no reason, and then she had a baby with my dad and they didn't tell me I had a new baby brother until a month later. And when I expressed that the secret keeping hurt me, she got super offended.

Well I'm sorry, I'm sick of living a life where I have to bottle up any negative emotions for fear of triggering an emotional outburst and guilt tripping!! As an adult I will have honest communication, and I am open to their feedback as well if I do something to offend them, but we need to be able to TALK about it. This silent treatment "read my mind because you KNOW what you did to offend me" bullshit needs to stop. And if it won't stop, I'm not going to reconcile.