Something that I don't understand about the poly "need" for multiple relationships, is what you feel when you are single. Do you "need" to be in a relationship at all? Because that feels like not finding your life to be enough as it is. So why is it different when you're in one relationship, to "need" another/multiple others?

I am monogamous, open to polyamory, but I don't feel that I "need" a relationship. It would be nice, and being in my soulmate relationship is more than nice, but before I was with my soulmate I didn't feel my life was lacking in some major way. I wanted to add beautiful experiences to my life by joining it with someone I love, but that's not the same as "needing" to be in a relationship with anyone, let alone multiple people.

My partner, who is polyamorous, has told me that his nature is to be open to love from multiple people at once, but that he doesn't feel his life lacks anything with me. It's more that if he did organically develop feelings for another, he wouldn't want to feel prevented from seeing where that goes.

So I don't understand the idea that you "need" multiple romantic relationships because I don't think anyone "needs" romance. It's a beautiful thing, one might say the most beautiful thing, but I feel your approach to polyamory comes from an inner void wanting to be filled, rather than from a place of abundant love that can be shared with more than one.

I'm probably not understanding, which is why I'm asking for clarification.