Something about a man telling women why we moan, and that we are “not meant to be monogamous” rubs me the wrong way. I’m sure you don’t mean it this way but it comes across as mansplaining, because you’re not a woman and you don’t know what feelings a woman is expressing when she moans.
In my experience, I too thought that moaning was exaggerated porn stuff. Before I had penetrative sex for the first time. But being penetrated is wayyyy more intense than I could have imagined. It shakes your insides and your diaphragm, depending on how hard the man thrusts. It consumes your entire body. As such, it’s impossible NOT to moan, at least for me. It’s a hugely intense, incomparable feeling, and so the noises you make during it aren’t similar to other sounds you might make say, during masturbation, at least in my experience.
Also, with this whole “women moan to attract other males” hypothesis, how do you explain MEN moaning? Do they also want to attract other males? I don’t think so!
And I don’t appreciate being told that “naturally” I’m either polyamorous OR monogamous, nor do I appreciate being told that when I moan, a sign of pleasure that my PARTNER is giving me, that I’m subliminally trying to get other men to come and fuck me. Because I’m NOT. I’m in the moment and I’m not thinking of anyone else except who I’m having sex with.
From my anecdotal experience at least, moaning is natural because of the intense sensations. It’s like how we hiss or gasp or make other sounds when we feel pain, or groan when we stretch or go “mmmm” when we taste something delicious. It’s in that category of sound. It’s also a way of communicating to your partner that you’re enjoying yourself and they should keep going.
In fact I think that men NOT moaning during sex, or people just not moaning harder during marriage etc — is not natural. I think porn makes men feel they have to be silent during sex, and I think in marriage the passion doesn’t last often, so the man doesn’t thrust as hard or aggressively and so the woman doesn’t make as much sound because the feelings aren’t as intense.
