Sexual frequency is one of the only areas in my relationship where my partner and I have some dissatisfaction with each other. I (female) have a higher libido than my male partner. To the point where if I could, I would want to have sex with him more than once a day. I've always been like this, and I don't have any desire for an "open relationship" as I'm demisexual and only want sex in a committed relationship.

There are some major complications: first of all my partner and I for the majority of our relationship have been long-distance. He is in America and I am in Australia. When we have been physically together our sex life was great, and long-distance we still do a lot of things to keep our sex life alive, primarily phone sex and writing erotica to each other. Which is all good. The other thing is, he's now currently in PRISON in America for a crime that occurred during a psychotic break from reality (which I witnessed over video chat and testified in court as a witness about) and he is severely depressed and suffers from psychosis still. This leads to anhedonia, apathy and lack of libido, partly due to mental illness, partly due to prison and partly due to the side effects of his psychotropic medication.

I love him so much, and he loves me too, and I know that we both desire each other, but while I sympathise with his mental illness and situation, and understand how that would justifiably affect libido, that doesn't mean it isn't hard on me though. :(

I think the only solution while he is in prison is to get adequate treatment for his mental illnesses, and also for us to continue to communicate and find alternative ways to express sexuality in creative ways. Like spiritual tantra, meditation etc.

And FYI if you're wondering why I don't consider him being in prison one of the reasons I'm dissatisfied with him, it's because I genuinely believe having seen how he was when the crime was committed, and every day since, that it was not intentional, and I feel sorry for him. Likewise I can't be angry with someone for being mentally ill, that's not their fault. But it can still be frustrating.