OK so I am demisexual, but I really feel strongly that I am NOT in any way asexual. In fact I am the most sexual person I know. It's at the core of who I am as a person, how much I want to have sex and enjoy having sex.

It's just that I don't want to have sex *with a specific person* unless I have a strong emotional connection with them.

For some people they might feel comfortable calling that asexual but I find it very strange to call someone "asexual":

- who fantasises about sex constantly

- who masturbates multiple times a day and has ever since I was 12

- who if I wasn't in a long distance relationship would want to have sex multiple times a day

Like if I can be a freaking nympho, and yet demisexual, and that makes me "asexual" then the word ceases to have any meaning.

I also hate the thought of being asexual because I was abused by my mother for having any kind of sexuality at all, because in her mind being asexual (and only have sex for procreation) was the only moral way to be. And that's just not me.

This is not to say being asexual is bad. It's just I'm NOT. And I resent feeling like I have to be put into that box simply because I only want to have sex with people I have emotional connections with.