Mmmm I have experienced transcendent love. I still do. But I do think that you can nurture and feed love through specific actions which you can choose to perform or not. You can let love die, or you can help it grow. That is a choice. Love is an action AND a feeling. Because nothing is separate.

I think the love that is undying, is something we tap into but because it's universal it means we can lose connection with/awareness of it. My best friend and "sensate" calls it "the Eternal Lovers" when it's romantic, and "the Eternal Friends" when it's platonic. Everyone has the choice whether to tap into "Eternal Lovers" energy, or "Eternal Friends" energy, but they can also choose to turn away from that.