Majority of celibate men are not self-described "incels". The men in my life who I know aren't having sex right now (two of my brothers and my best male friend) aren't particularly bothered by this state of affairs. They're content to wait until they find someone that they feel will be wanting an emotional connection not just physical. Cause for example my best friend used to have a lot of casual gay sex and found it quite unfulfilling, he was also assaulted by one of his Grindr dates, so now he thinks it's safer for both his body and heart to have sex in the context of a loving relationship. Is that celibacy? I don't think I'd call it that.