Just because you have the “right” to associate or disassociate people from your life whenever you want, still doesn’t mean it isn’t an asshole move to do to your friends.

Sure, for toxic people, I think ghosting is super appropriate.

But I’ve been ghosted before by some close friends, and it was incredibly painful. One of them was a woman who had been my best friend for six years, who had only a few weeks before avowed to me that I was “family” after my mother and father estranged me, who told me she would “always be there for me” — then during the biggest tragedy of my life, she suddenly ghosted.

I worried so much. It was so out of character I thought she was sick, or dead.

She finally called me to tell me in a matter of fact way that she didn’t want to be friends anymore, and that it was “nothing I had done”.

Did she have the right to do that? Sure. Was it a terribly hurtful thing to do? Yes.

It fucked me up. It gaslit me.

If you care about someone’s feelings AT ALL, don’t ghost them.

If you’re someone who cavalierly ghosts friends and says “I may ghost you at any time with no explanation” then I would think twice about being your friend.