Jesus Christ, consensual BDSM is one thing but the man DISLOCATED YOUR JAW AND RENDERED YOU UNABLE TO CHEW FOR FIVE WEEKS. That's disturbing as fuck. I'm sorry but like - that's not OK. That's not temporary pain that's an INJURY.

And I'm not saying Caleb is a bad person because he didn't intend to do it but the fact that you are happy to be SERIOUSLY INJURED by your partner, is something maybe you should discuss with a therapist because you can get SERIOUSLY HURT AND PERMANENTLY DISABLED if you're not careful.

The important critera for BDSM is Safe Sane and Consensual.

SAFE being one of the operative words. Hitting you so you dislocate your jaw and it doesn't heal for 5 weeks, that's not safe. That's profoundly UNSAFE. That's not empowering. It's sad that you think it is.