It's so hard when someone refuses to leave someone that is abusive. I have a friend who has been relentlessly emotionally abused, to the point she can't even see her kids more than a couple of times a year (she lost custody of them due to her partner forcing her to choose between him and them, and she chose him) and she told me she would leave him in December. Made plans and everything. Said she couldn't keep missing out on her children's life. And now she's gone back to him again. I have done all I can. Unless she truly wants to leave, I can't make her leave. Even if he makes her life a misery. It's so sad.