It's like when you're feeling down, and people try cheering you up. It's not that cheering up is a bad thing, it's that you need to validate your negative emotion BEFORE you can move past it to see the positive.

So in my case: "It sucks that my partner is stuck in a prison with coronavirus in it and I'm worried due to his preexisting lung condition he might die. Also it sucks that my job made me take a pay cut due to COVID even though I was still performing extremely well at work."

Once I've validated those feelings I can then honestly say "I'm grateful that my partner is still alive and fighting because there were times across the last few years where he was almost about to kill himself - and I'm grateful that I myself don't have coronavirus nor do any family members so far, I live in a country which is better off than so many, and while a pay cut is bad at least I still HAVE a job so that's something to be grateful for."