It's interesting, because in my journey of self love, I realised forming an attachment to the self is entirely the wrong way (for myself at least). Because the idea of "forming an attachment" to something implies that you are separate from it. But you're not separate from your own self. So when I started "looking inward" for my "true self", I kept coming up empty. It's because I was the one looking, I am the subject, not the object.

So you can't form an attachment to yourself because you ARE yourself.

I realised that instead of "loving myself" the way I would love another person, self love was more the love of existence as experienced by this self. Outward focused onto the world. Instead of looping from myself back into myself. That doesn't work for me because all I end up loving are my mental images of myself - constructs of my mind to represent "myself" but not my actual self.

So I don't love myself from outside, instead I love LIFE ITSELF and that is the only way I can feel self love. Because my "self" as experienced from the inside, is my reactions and experiences with "other than me". It is outward focused. It is qualia.