I'm really sorry that you've had such shitty experiences with men.

I don't know that you can necessarily generalise from your small sample size to the entire culture and say that because no one ever bought you flowers or got down on one knee, that men in general don't want to get married or commit. Because there are millions of men who are doing this right now to their lady-loves. There are millions of hopelessly romantic men. Men who want love. Men who would do anything for their love.

I'm sorry that you haven't found them so far, that sucks, but don't think in terms of "the impossibility of it" when actually that's negating all the men out there who are romantic, who are giving, who are devoted, who want to find their soulmate.

Why do you say it's "very likely you will never be picked up for a date"? And that "you will never receive a bouquet of flowers from a romantic partner"? That's not likely at all, unless you go into relationships with so few boundaries that you accept crumbs of affection.

I think your personal experiences in this, while valid and painful, are not general lessons about society at large and that should be a sign of hope for you.