I wouldn’t say my partner and I really "argue". We debate sometimes, on issues like the best way to solve the Ukraine war, or climate change, or religious bigotry etc. I guess if you define any disagreement as an "argument" then sure, we argue sometimes. But we keep it civil and if emotions get heated we make sure to reassure each other that we’re not mad at each other and that it’s just that we’re feeling passionate about the issue.

But I don’t think that’s comparable to the personal attacks and fighting that many couples are involved in. Name calling, emotional punishment, manipulation, yelling, insults, stonewalling etc. We don’t do any of that.