I wouldn't say everything happens for a reason but I can create meaning and growth out of what happens to me.

I choose to view MY OWN trauma as a lesson. Because it helps me be happy about MY LIFE.

I could continue to wallow in victimhood and go on about how life isn't fair and how I shouldn't have to deal with the shitty things that happened to me - and that would be valid and true.

But if I did that I would be more miserable today than I am now. I do not want to be miserable. I reframe my own narrative because it is MY NARRATIVE about MY LIFE and I can view my life how I damn well please.

As can you.

Just like I shouldn't judge you for how you feel about your trauma, don't judge others for how they deal with theirs.