I would say that their desires are romanticized but their expectations are cynical. They don't think women could possibly be loyal and caring the way they are. It's weird. Loyalty and caring is what most women want and what most women would give.

It feels more like they're "fishing" for reassurance. It's kind of annoying passive aggressive way of saying what they want.

Instead of being like "I care, I'm sincere, I will give my all for those I love, I'm an old school romantic (and I'm not ashamed of it because it's a good thing)" - which would be far more attractive to women - they're like "women these days aren't appreciative of my good qualities which I guess are bad after all to This Society, I'm so bitter".

Just put what you offer out there into the world with confidence and people will value it. Trust. Women want people like that. But they don't like bitter people who are self hating.

The second guy seems more like he has an anxiety disorder/BPD than just being romantic though. "Giving my all to people who don't give half back", "doing anything to make others happy even if I get hurt", "needing constant reassurance", "pushing you away if I feel you're not reciprocating enough". All of this is definitely legitimate reasons a person might be single because they have not yet learned how to be healthy in a relationship.