I think you're only thinking about it in terms of "hookup culture". If a man told me that I was only one of several "options" he was considering then I wouldn't want to sleep with him because he's clearly not specifically interested in ME but only wanting to get laid in general with a woman within a particular range of attractiveness.
But I have never participated in hookup culture. Not because I didn't have people wanting to hookup with me, but I am not interested in no strings attached sex. In general women are unlikely to be sexually satisfied in hookups (more than 80% of women who hookup with men don't orgasm) and they are also likely to be emotionally hurt by the cavalier and careless attitude towards their feelings. I am very good at giving myself as much sexual pleasure as I want, whenever I want, so in order for sex to be *better* than the extreme pleasure I can give myself, it needs to be emotionally fulfilling and intimate.
So I rather get to know people better as friends, and then it can turn into more, and as a result I've only ever had sex with one person, and that person is now my fiance. But he's not rich, in fact I am the breadwinner in our relationship. Rather I love him for his personality, kindness, creativity and idealism. He's my best (non-platonic) friend.
Perhaps 80% of women IN HOOKUP CULTURE go after 20% of the men, but most women don't participate in hookup culture, most women are interested in long term relationships and true love, and as such they end up dating people they know are compatible with them. For example one of my best female friends is engaged to a fellow doctor who she met when they were both in med school together, they would study together and eventually they fell in love.
The ubiquitousness of "hookup culture" is a myth. Only about 20% of Millennials participate in hookups regularly (this is in the US, but in Australia where I live, it's even less). But those 20% of people make up 75% of all hookups. In many cultures (especially Asian, Indian and Middle Easter cultures) hookups are very frowned upon.
