I tend to get vocal about this issue because I'm a champion masturbator and have had thousands of orgasms that way (my record was 140 in a row as a teenager, I know because I was reading a book over several hours and orgasmed every second page, and no it wasn't a sexy book). Orgasm is one of the greatest pleasures of life. It's like good food. I love orgasming so much I give myself several per day normally.

My partnered sex life with my male partner however has rarely resulted in a clitoral orgasm, and never via penetration. However the pleasure I have felt via penetrative sex with him I would rate as more enjoyable over a longer period of time, and more full bodied in terms of pleasure, than any of the thousands of times I've masturbated to orgasm. And that's saying a lot, because I love orgasming via masturbation. Like I've literally SCREAMED with pleasure while being fucked. But I didn't "come" in a way I recognised via the clitoris, it was a more continuous wave of pleasure that went as long as the sex did, emanating through my womb and core, with no recognisable "climax".

But these articles I see about the orgasm gap (not yours) would define the kind of sex I have and enjoy as "being lesser than" the times I orgasmed via masturbation, and would then blame my partner for it. When actually he's a great, considerate lover who cares about my pleasure a lot.