I mean in some ways writing to an audience is worse. Because there are more people involved. Holly Bradshaw is very easy to look up online — and all the main Google hits are either her complaining about her husband, talking about how she had an affair, talking about how he had an affair and she drove him to it, talking about her unsatisfactory sex life — all she does is monetize her dissatisfaction in her relationship. So anyone who knows her via her writing, will know her husband as “that loser”. Thousands of people. Imagine finding that out? I would be more than pissed.