I guess what I'm seeing is - you don't believe that what your husband says in therapy is being said in good faith. You believe he's taking innocent mistakes and wilfully misrepresenting them as malicious and deliberately harmful. If that's the case (either that he's being malicious, or that you're incapable of seeing him as not being malicious) - what is the point of couple's therapy? Don't both sides need to be able to come to it with the same intentions and the same willingness to be honest?