I feel like this mea culpa kind of attitude is ultimately condescending.

Seriously, having a free webinar “demeans the paid labour of women of colour”? Because you can only ever have one or the other?

A free webinar of white women talking about how they can do better in terms of being supportive to women of colour, is demeaning paid black speakers — how? I thought white people were supposed to “educate other white people”?

And the fact you apologised to a random black woman because Trump was elected, despite the fact it wasn’t your fault Trump was elected, kind of seems like virtue signalling. You don’t come across as genuinely wanting to comfort someone who was afraid of racism in Trump’s America. You felt uncomfortable around her, and as a result, your actions come across as more like “please validate me for being “not one of those” whites, if I self-flagellate enough maybe I’ll feel more comfortable around you”. When actually your actions kind of put the onus on the black woman to forgive you or validate you and your discomfort, when she shouldn’t have to.

I absolutely believe that white women should do better in regards to our sisters of colour. However is that accomplished by being as guilt-ridden and self-effacing as possible? Ultimately it feels like virtue signalling. More like a performance of your own wokeness rather than actual helpfulness.