I feel like people aren’t going to feel comfortable admitting if they have fantasies of actual rape. But the sort of erotica that’s written, the sort of porn that’s created for that (which I would imagine is designed to appeal to people who have rape fantasies) tend to be sadistic/masochistic. So I’m surprised when you say that “rape fantasies don’t involve any pain” — to me that’s a fantasy then of domination. Which is great, I have fantasies like that, but I wouldn’t call it rape.