I don't think this is all that it is though. I have a friend who is an "autism mom". She is a black single mother with kidney disease, and her son is autistic. She is very very loving, and values her son immensely. It's not a matter of "not valuing humans enough".

Unfortunately the symptoms her son has (which are obviously not his fault) include: violent rages during which he punches his mother and knocks her to the ground, causing her to have to go to the ER and further eating into her meagre finances; and self harming behaviour that she has little strength to stop.

Can you really blame her for worrying about having to take care of her son for the rest of her life, given that with age he gets bigger and stronger he gets, while she gets older and frailer? She just wants him to not be harmed and to not (accidentally) harm others.

Until autism advocates understand that side of the "autism mom" we will miss out on an important side of the story. Until we as a society provide more support for these symptoms of autism, we will not eliminate the more harmful sides of autism mothering.