I don't believe that the attitude you're talking about is really love. The fact you see all men like this, makes me think that you see your male partner like this, and if so why the fuck are you in a relationship with him?

If you really love someone, and you trust that they love you, then it's mutual and you LIKE doing things for them, because making them happy makes you happy. And your partner feels the same way about you. A relationship is not two people using each other.

But that seems to be how you see it, and that's very sad.