I don't agree that being spiritual means I'm not expressing divine femininity. EVERYTHING I do is as a woman, that includes being logical and reasonable and spiritual. I'm never "less feminine". Whether I'm doing maths in business, or writing poetry, or walking around in a flower crown and silk kaftan. It's all feminine because I'm a woman. I actually hate when people try to imply that anything I do makes me less feminine. Or that any achievement I have is not "really" feminine it's masculine.

"I could still be intelligent and powerful in my life, just not with men" - WHAT??? Sorry no I highly disagree that you need to do this. If you are doing this, people aren't getting to see the real you. You're tricking them.

I am intelligent and powerful in all aspects of my life, including my romantic relationship. Yes it's wonderful to be able to surrender control in a safe way with my love. It's wonderful to be able to be vulnerable. It's also something that men want, to feel needed sometimes.

But my purpose is not to sublimate my light to adoringly gush over men. My soulmate sees and respects the goddess in me as equal to the god in him. If you are JUST "Passive Surrender", listening rather than talking, all men will do is project an idea of who you are onto you, rather than seeing you for who you really are. You want people to love the real you, right?