I agree with you on this. But that's not what Buddhism does, and that quote can be read in different ways.

As someone that has experienced major trauma, grief and anxiety, one of the things that has helped me significantly (along with therapy) is spirituality. So I've been researching Buddhism as part of this.

Resistance to pain, denial of pain, denial of reality, living in the future and thinking "I will be happy only if X happens" - those things were holding me back from healing. Learning to live in the present and accepting emotions including pain, that reduces suffering. For me and for many many people.

It's not about shame. The fact you feel shamed by a quote like that says more about you than it does about Buddhism and I think you should do a more respectful deep dive into this spirituality before writing it all off as "white cisgendered heteronormative privileged emotional bypassing".

The irony of a white woman calling a major Asian spiritual practice, the majority of whose adherents are non-white, "Whiteness" is staggering.