Honestly this is something that bugs me about avid pro-natalists. I don’t WANT to have anything supersede the love I have for my soulmate. He’s my partner, my equal, I can tell him anything and he can support me the way I support him. I cannot do that to a child, if I did that would be emotional incest. Parental love is profoundly unselfish or it should be, but I love my equal love with my life partner, I get so much from it. Even if I had a kid and my responsibility to them came above all, I don’t think anything would match the breadth of love I have for my soulmate. Because there’s so much to love between equal adults that can never be shared with a child. You can be weak and insecure, and your partner will comfort you. You can be sexual to your partner. You can tell your partner your deepest darkest secrets. All things that are totally inappropriate to do with a child.