Honestly I feel like some trans people actually are the ones who "other" themselves. The movies and books and TV shows about trans people you mention, were mostly spearheaded BY trans people, because that was the narrative they wanted, capitalising off their own "novelty" to make money. Instead of wanting to "live and let live", there is a huge vocal trans community online that goes around picking fights with people for using the phrase "biological sex", for wearing a pussy hat on a march, for not asking every single person you meet what their pronouns are, for not making a disclaimer on every discussion about feminism and female sex that "Not all women have vaginas".

You can't deny that a lot of online trans people actively court controversy. I am sure there are many that do not, but it's hard to do that and then turn around and say "why are people treating us as weird and unusual, like being trans is the biggest part of our identity" when it's the online trans community first and foremost that makes being trans the most obvious, in your face, never-to-be-forgotten part of a trans person's identity, and god forbid you ever see a person as an individual first, because that's "erasing" them. And god forbid a trans person want to "pass" these days. That's a form of internalised transphobia.

The online trans community tries to make trans issues the biggest issue in feminism and social justice, they are the ones pushing themselves into the media spotlight constantly, with more and more fringe demands that the wider population is not going to accept (such as demanding that no one assign gender at birth, demanding that hospitals use the term "pregnant people" even when the person pregnant is a woman, demanding that people be cancelled for saying that biological sex is real and not the same thing as gender etc). #notalltranspeople obviously but it's a large enough, vocal enough community that it overshadows the trans lives that just want to live normal lives.