Exactly, in a healthy relationship you WANT to do things for your partner that make them happy, even if it's not the same thing that makes you happy.

It sounds like you're reciprocating by doing a lot for her that you would rather not do if it wasn't for her, so some reciprocation from her is reasonable.

If intercourse is too painful there are other things that can be done. Even things that don't involve touching (like dirty talking about what she wishes she could do if she wasn't in pain or something).

It's not to say she's a bad person or should be forced/pressured into it but we're assuming that you both love each other and treat each other well in other aspects of the relationship.