Eh I feel like the same man can contain all of these traits at different times.

For example, the first time my fiance and I met in person (we were in an LDR), he asked "may I kiss you?" before we kissed.

However once consent was obtained the first time and it was pretty damn obvious that I was into it and wanted more, he didn't need to ask again and in the bedroom he has typically been very dominant (which I very much enjoy).

At the same time, there have been times where he has cried, and I've held him, and he's clung to me as a nurturing compassionate figure.

On one hand, he's a martial arts expert, ex-military, with the ability to be stoic if he needs to be. On the other hand he melts over small fluffy animals, is very emotionally demonstrative, and even has a female aspect (he's nonbinary).

Is he an alpha? A beta? Those labels are limiting, he's my love. In all his beautiful complexity.

Likewise, am I an alpha female or a beta female? I am a dominant personality in business, I speak up and negotiate hard, and am rewarded for that. I make quite a lot of money (much more than my partner). I am also very feminine, I wear only dresses and skirts, in vibrant colours, often with flower crowns or headdresses that I create. But I like to be mostly submissive in the bedroom, I have a soft side and can be anxious and neurotic. I'm very spiritual. While I'm tall for a woman I'm still shorter and weaker physically than my partner.

Again, the labels are limiting. I'm me.