Dude. To argue that anyone who claims "you are worthy of love" has to be prepared to date you, else they're lying, is ridiculous.

Just because you're not compatible with someone (due to personality/lifestyle/hobbies/location/wants for the future) doesn't mean either person is not worthy of love. They just aren't the right fit for each other.

Let's give an analogy. Some people really hate bananas. Are bananas "unworthy fruits"? Of course not, they're nutritious and beautiful. What about plants that aren't edible by humans? Are they "unworthy"? No they have value to themselves and to the ecosystem regardless of whether humans want to eat them. In fact it's kind of silly to ask "is a plant worthy" because it just IS, it doesn't need to prove anything.

Another example - some people love running. It gives them a rush like no other. Some people find running boring and uncomfortable and they like swimming better. Does that make running "unworthy"? No. Does it make swimming "unworthy" that some people choose running instead? No. People have different preferences and lifestyles and some are more niche than others.

I was one of those people who told you "you're worthy of love, just because someone didn't keep dating you doesn't mean that you aren't worthy it just means you're not compatible".

But the idea that I would have to personally date you to be able to make an opinion like this - it makes no sense. I'm already in a relationship. I live in another country from you. I have certain things I want out of life that you may not want. And vice versa.

However I can say that worthiness of love doesn't get given to you by other people. It comes from within. It's about whether you consider yourself worthy of self love, whether or not anyone wants to date you. It's also about whether you are prepared to give love to the world. Not just romantically, but via friendship/family/charity.

I wrote a whole article about self love which came from my rejections and anxious attachment that came from people ghosting me. But what helped wasn't having those people who ghosted me come back. It was realising that self love doesn't involve loving yourself the way you love another person, but loving life. Because you are not your imagination of yourself. You are not your self image. You are not how you think other people perceive you. You are not pictures, words, concepts. You are the consciousness reading this who is defining itself according to these narratives and concepts. Pure consciousness. And so what is self love from the perspective of pure consciousness, beyond concepts and images? It's loving life and experiences. Which you can do regardless of whether other people love your image.