Reverie
2 min readDec 9, 2020

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As a highly sexual woman, I've talked to my therapist about this very thing, and she said that something to be aware of is that:

1. There is NOTHING wrong with being highly sexual and wanting to talk about sex and be as sexual as you want and even make sex a career

2. There is nothing wrong with other people not feeling comfortable with that level of sexuality

People have different comfort levels and not all of it is due to sex-negativity and prejudice against sexual women, although that's a big part.

When you talk about wanting to show all your friends and family photos of yourself nude, it makes me wonder if you consider the fact that some of them may actually just be less comfortable with nudity and sexuality, and that's just as valid as you being as unabashedly sexual and exhibitionistic as you are?

When my therapist first told me this, I got really upset as I heard it as "you're right, you ARE too much, and it's disgusting to be this open about sex", but actually what she was saying was more "be as open about sex as you want, with people who are comfortable with it, and discuss boundaries first". :)

If people don't feel comfortable with your discussing sex as much as you do, that's valid, but it DOESN'T mean that your way of being was wrong either. I know that's something I found very hard to internalise for myself. I felt that one way or another had to be "right" or "wrong" and if someone was uncomfortable that meant I must have been fundamentally wrong somehow. But that's not the case actually.

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Reverie
Reverie

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