Another random thought - are you tall by any chance? Because I'm very tall for a woman. I'm the average height for men actually. So I wonder if that also plays a big role in how men see me. I can look most of them straight in the eyes. That surely must also affect confidence and how much presence someone feels like they have. If one is short and women are on average significantly shorter than men, it must be an extra difficulty to stand out and be heard in a group where most people are taller than you.