Absolutely agree. I feel that my partner is my “soulmate” but that is just a word used to describe a sense of knowing someone so deeply and connecting with them on such a special level. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have to work on your relationship, communicate honestly and solve your differences! A relationship is a project that you work on together with the other person.

As a polyamorous person I also don’t believe that there is only one person in the world that you could fall in love with. There are many potential soulmates out there. However that’s not to say one person is replaceable by another. As two people work together on their relationship they become more than the sum of their parts. They may become MORE of a “soulmate” because of the growing together that they do.

My partner and I proactively work on our relationship, trying to identify issues and communicate our needs even more than we maybe have to. We don’t just coast on the fact that we are “in love”. As a result, we have grown in many ways even closer together than we were in the first heady flush of our romance.

To me that’s what a soulmate is. Something that you build.