100% this is what I went through with my covert narcissist mother.

1. She would stalk me online to try and find out things I'd written on blogs etc to see if I wrote political opinions she didn't approve of, or if I wrote about sex, or supported gay marriage. Then would tell me I needed to stop posting these things online and that if I didn't I was making her suicidal.

2. If I ever expressed sadness or frustration she would tell me I was "hurting her" and start to cry and guilt trip me. It got so bad I literally became physically incapable of crying in her presence, it was like I became dead inside - if I wanted to cry I would have to go into bushland far away from the house, or hide in a cupboard muffled by clothes.

3. This was her biggest tactic. Everything was a guilt trip. Everything I did she didn't like she made out to be equivalent to abuse and would cry and make me feel the deepest sense of shame for normal things like: having a sex drive when I was in my 20s, or being bisexual.

4. In my final exams for high school, I got 98.7, a result that only 1.3% of people in the state get. I also got a medal from our Premier because I got "band six" in all my subjects which was even rarer. Not good enough for my mother, she went around telling everyone I got 99. Because 98.7 isn't enough. Then at university, when I regularly got Distinctions and High Distinctions, I got a Credit in ONE assignment. She told me I needed to go to the head of the department and appeal it.

5. Yes. My mother gave me the silent treatment for a year after discovering I was bisexual, and has essentially disowned me now. Nothing I ever did could be good enough for her. It's sad but I'm free now! :)